Her birthdate is a passage in the calendar which also happens to be your yearly pass to make her feel like she is the only one in the world you pay attention to, that which you see as she truly is, and she is your whole wide world. It is a day to hit the pause button on the everyday and instead create a wave of happiness that will carry her for weeks. But with so much at stake to do it just right, where does one even start?
Leave behind the usual dinner date: This year is for you to step out of the norm. We present to you a curation of ideas to make her day that will be as special and unique as she is, and put together some special things to do for your girlfriend on her birthday which shows her how much you care.
Start of the Day: A Morning to Remember
One of the most special things to do for your girlfriend on her birthday can begin at the very start of the day and may set the tone for the whole day. Forget the typical “Happy Birthday” text and that rushed coffee; instead kick off the party as soon as she wakes up.
Breakfast in the Clouds
The classic thing has been improved upon, and breakfast in bed has a little extra things to add to the fray:
- The night before, find out what her favorite breakfast treat is.
- Set an alarm and get up early to get it for her from that great local bakery she is a fan of.
- Make her coffee or tea the way she likes it.
- Present it all on a tray with a single flower and a note.
- Not a store bought card, but a note you wrote on a simple sheet of paper which shares a very personal reason you’re happy she was born.
That little big act of thought lets her know you have been putting this together to make her feel special from the very start.
Day Long Scavenger Hunt
Transform her birthday into a grand adventure. Before the day starts out, put out a series of little sweet notes and presents around the home, with each clue pointing to the next and with notes of happy memories between you or what I love about her. The final clue is for her main present or it will give the details of the evening’s events. This makes the whole day full of fun and anticipation which in turn turns even the everyday moments into magic.
Creating the Experience: The Main Event
While gifts are great, the main memory of her birthday will be “what we did together.” This is the shift from putting thought into presents to creating a shared unforgettable experience.
Design an Activity that Speaks in Love Language
Think about what really brings out the best in her:
- Does it involve lots of time spent together? Plan a day trip to a look out with a stunning view and pack a picnic that you put a lot into.
- Is it hearing how much you care through notes? Write her a very personal note and read it out to her in a tranquil setting like a botanical garden.
If what she wants is someone to go above and beyond to make her happy, spend the day on something that is important to her like a home project which is on her wish list, once you complete it enjoy a restful night. Tailoring the day around how your girlfriend best shows love is one of the most special things to do for your girlfriend on her birthday because it means the world to her.
A “This is My Life” Adventure
Plan out a day which reflects a living timeline of your relationship. Start at that first coffee shop where you had your first date. Include in the trip the park for that great picnic you had or that bookstore which was your base for our first Saturday together.
For the evening, prepare that first home cooked meal you both shared. At each place, you can talk about memories. This look back isn’t just fun, it’s also a great way to relive your past with her and see how far you’ve come.
Thoughtful Choices: Presenting with Purpose
The ideal present is that which ends a perfect day out of an exclamation point. It should present itself as felt rather than bought.
The Memory Gift
Instead of trying to guess what she wants from a store, give her something unique that commemorates a moment the both of you shared. A great way to do that is to take your favorite photo of the two of you and work it into a one of a kind art piece.
For a really special Birthday Presents for Her take a photo etched into a real leaf then place it in a frame. It’s amazing, very organic and a memory which will last a lifetime. That’s a present that says, “I wanted to keep this moment with you forever.”
A Membership to Joy
Give her a present that continues to give at a time past the birthday. Sign her up for a subscription box that fits what she loves. For some members, it may be a monthly drop of new books, rare craft coffees, artisanal cheeses, or materials for her hobby. It becomes a continuous note of your thoughtfulness.
How to Close Out the Day
At the end of the day, do what you can to make it unforgivable. Send her off to sleep feeling very much loved. If the weather is on our side, take the party outside for the night. Put out a blanket in the backyard, at a local park (if it’s open and safe) or even on a balcony. Bring along a thermos of hot chocolate, some cozy blankets, and just talk.
Now, before she goes to sleep, look her in the eyes and tell her how much you love her — no distractions, just the two of you. Share a specific time she supported you, made you laugh, or inspired you. Tell her how much you thank her for being who she is. This very real and open expression is the greatest gift you can give. It is free but it’s worth everything.
